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CYFS got involved – and stayed involved, even when they were not needed.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on May 17, 2007

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CYFS got involved – and stayed involved, even when they were not needed.
Monday, 14.05.2007, 09:02pm (GMT12)


By “Posie”

This is my story re my ordeals with the system via CYFS.  I did not want to write this story but with the encouragement of another, I decided to put pen to paper, in a manner of speaking.  I know that what you are about to read will produce anger and tears, and that’s ok because it is natural to feel these emotions.  All I ask is that you don’t take your anger and frustrations out on me, please?

I guess my story begins at the time I met Barry Smeath, the father of my son.  I met Barry at a social club gathering in Palmerston North.  After some weeks into the relationship I discovered I was pregnant.  Unfazed with the pregnancy, I thought I’d let my parents know that they were going to be grandparents again for the 20 something time.   Mum and Dad were ok about it.  However when I mentioned to Barry about my pregnancy, he immediately accused me by saying he was not the baby’s father.   I was totally devastated with this blatant accusation, because I was not the type of woman who slept around with every Tom, Dick and Harry.   Crying, I went back to my father and informed him of what Barry had said, as I was engaged to marry Barry at the time.   Dad had phoned Barry and asked him what his intentions were re his youngest daughter?  Barry’s swift reply was that he had no intention of marrying me in the first place and now that I was pregnant I could go to hell.   Well… that was the end of that, but undeterred, I made up my mind I was going to keep my baby and with Mum and Dad’s help I would get through the difficulties.

A few years prior to my pregnancy, I had finally been released fromPorirua
Hospital.  I was placed there, not long after I had my 14th birthday.  I’m not going to mention why this happened, but having worked through issues later on in my adult life, I had been misdiagnosed with having a completely different mental illness than the one I now have and had been suffering for some years.   Yes folks, I have Bipolar disorder.  And before you start with the prejudiced nonsense, I am not a nut, loony tune, or whatever the label that is current these days.  I have a mental illness which in my case is mild and can be managed by knowing my triggers and
St John’s Wort.  Know me before you judge me. 

I was sexually abused at age 4 years.  The sexual abuse demon seemed to haunt me as a few years later I was sexually abused again when 8 years old.  Because of this I was eliciting, odd behaviour.  To find out what was amiss I was sent to a specialist in
Auckland to be examined for a period of 18 months.  During my time in
Auckland I stayed at the Grange, a Salvation Army girls home.  At age 15 years the sexual abuse demon paid me yet another visit and I was again sexually abused by a male charge nurse of Villa 9 (Mr Shuker) and Mr Jack Rankin, a male nurse from one of the other villas.  I eventually became one of a “stable” of girls who were set up to be “prostitutes” for a particular group of male staff.  As a consequence, we girls were placed on the contraceptive, Depo Provera.  If you don’t know what that is, DP is a contraceptive administered by intramuscular injection, every 3 months.  

On having left Porirua, I was now in a vulnerable situation.  At this time I met up with Noel Thomas.  As I thought that I was no good for anything else and because I needed the money, I became a prostitute, with Noel acting as my pimp.  I did this for 2 years, until one night Noel said he knew of a couple of clients who needed younger girls to satisfy their lustful urges.

Hearing this, I was alarmed.  I needed to do something, but what? Not sure of what to do next, I said I knew of 2 who would be adequate.   Noel accepted this and asked me to arrange for these 2 girls to be at the “House”.   I agreed so with a plan in mind to set a trap, I took the 2 girls down to the ‘house’ over the next 2 nights.  I told each girl that they were to trust me as I was going to make darned sure that nothing was going to happen to them.  I also knew that if I did not bring these 2 girls down to meet Noel, my life would be forfeit.   I took one girl down one night and the other girl, the next night.

 True to my word, nothing did happen to the girls, but by keeping them safe, I had jeopardised my own life.  Noel had forced me, by putting a knife to my throat to perform ‘blow jobs’ on him and he brutally sodomised me.   When it was all over, I just gathered up my clothes and ran out of the house absolutely terrified.  Reaching home, I staggered in the back door too scared to even wake up my parents.   The next morning, I told them what had taken place re the girls and of Noel’s threats.  The police were contacted and it was arranged that a friend of mine act as a prostitute to catch Noel out.  This plan had worked as Noel was eventually arrested, charged and convicted of living off immoral earnings, trying to procure young women and girls for the purposes of prostitution and under age sex.

Two years after leaving Porirua I was still vulnerable and struggling to come to terms with life as I did not go through what would be termed a ‘normal’ adolescence.  At 20 years of age I was still learning about what having a normal life was all about.  I had given up prostitution and made a conscious effort to rid myself of its effects, by vowing that if I had a boyfriend, I would be faithful to him.  It was during these adjustment periods that I became pregnant.

Half way through my pregnancy, my (for want of a word) ‘shrink’ Mason Durie (who is now the head of Maori studies at
University) suggested that I go to Bethany in
Auckland.  I refused to do this as I had loving parents who were already supporting me and would continue to do so.   The very idea of my going to
Bethany was anathema to Mum and Dad.  They believed that
Bethany was reserved for women and girls who had no family to support them.   My parents were wonderful, Dad in particular.  Why was because Mum was somewhat dignified in her approach to children conceived out of wed lock.  Two of my sisters had already ‘been there, done that’, re ex nuptial pregnancies.

Mum was pleased that I had reached my 22nd year with out any children, while unmarried.  Although engaged to Barry, my being pregnant outside of wed lock had shattered my mother’s dreams of ‘marriage first” for me.  

Having shrugged off the “suggestion” that I go to
Bethany, I settled down to continue my pregnancy and subsequent birth of my child.  With six weeks to go until the birth, I received another visit from someone.  Unbeknown to me at the time, this person who entered my life was about to shatter it.   The person or I should say, persons were Jackie Sayers and Les Mundell, Department of Social Welfare Social Workers.  They had come a calling to my parent’s place because I had refused to go to

My Dad being the type of man he was, resented the intrusion of two social workers from the formerly known Department of Social Welfare and demanded an explanation for their visit.  They had been informed by Mason Durie that I was considered an ‘at risk’ parent because of my former incarceration for 6 months at Tokanui and mainly Porirua hospitals.  Because my adjustment into adult society was difficult, I was placed as an out patient at the Manawaroa Psychiatric Unit.  Jackie and Les had informed Mum and Dad that they had a responsibility to do an investigation and check if I was indeed a safe parent.  At this time, it never even occurred to me that Jackie and Les had ulterior motives: ie to uplift my son and place him in foster care, hopefully with enough pressure placed on me, that I would give in and give him up for adoption.  Just two things stood in their way. 1) My maternal instincts and 2) the love and care my parents had towards me and their newest grand child. 

My son had a difficult arrival into this world.  The labour was 21 hours long and try as I might, I could not push my (then) unborn child out into the world.  He, as I soon found out, was having a difficult time with foetal distress because of my long, difficult labour.  I was tired, in pain and sore, wondering in and out of consciousness, with the vaguest sense that someone had said, “Oh my God!! What’s happening?”  I heard my mother say that something was wrong but not being fully aware I didn’t have a clue as to what.  I vaguely remember my Ob/Gyn entering the delivery room, growling at someone.  The next thing I know is I’m waking up in recovery after an emergency caesarean section. 

I later learned why I was having problems giving birth.  My son’s head was jammed against the rim of my pelvic bone at such an angle the back of his head was coming instead of the crown.  With each contraction I was bleeding from a large tear up in the vaginal wall.  At this point I just want to say to you guys that you can thank the good lord above you are male. 

Baby C and I were home 2 weeks later and settling into a domestic routine as most parents do with a new baby.  Having grand parents on deck was an added advantage.  My Dad made a fuss of little C.  In fact, if it hadn’t been for my vigilance, Dad would have spoiled him rotten.  However, difficulties were occurring.  Being a single mum I was entitled to the DPB, but I could not get the full amount unless I named C’s father.  This I did.  Equipped with some hindsight, I sensed that all was not well.  More pressure was being applied by Jackie and Les only this time, pressure was also coming from Barry.  He was simply refusing to be named as C’s father. So consequently I had to consult a lawyer to have the matter settled in court.  I had nothing to hide. I had proven to myself what I had once vowed to do and did not ‘sleep around’.  What’s more, I had witnesses who knew Barry and I had been in a relationship up until I found out I was pregnant.

With C now at 6 months of age, the pressure coming from DSW and Barry was now at crisis point. I wasn’t sleeping very well and coping with a boisterous 6 month old baby had added to the problems.  I was turning inward on myself and began to fuel a hatred for Barry.  One night with the hatred so intense during a visit from Les Mundell, I threw C hard down on to the floor 3 times.  I wanted to kill C because of his constant reminder of Barry.  The legal proceedings were emotionally draining.  The constant barrage of questions from Barry’s lawyer left me reeling.  I was cross examined re my past sex life.  I had to ask myself, what did my past sex life have to do with this case?  I was not the one who was running around with another, during our relationship. That had been made abundantly clear prior to my cross examination, by the testimony of several witnesses who had testified on my behalf.   At no time was Barry ever questioned about his past, multiple and current sexual encounters with women. 

After throwing C to the ground I was pounced on and catapulted across the room by Les.  I was screaming, lashing out and trying to get back to C so I could finish off what I had started.  The next thing I know is that the police had arrived and I was carted off to Manawaroa.  I kept screaming and lashing out, attacking anyone with in range due to my hatred of Barry being at full throttle.  My parents could see what was happening to me and understood my rage against a man who as I subsequently found out, was no more that an irresponsible rake.  From Manawaroa, I was sent toLake
Alice for a few weeks just so they could find out what was really going on?  After 2 weeks in

Alice I came home.  I was feeling somewhat spaced out with the medication and barely functioning.  Little C was in foster care. 

I was missing my little boy and wanted to see him, so a visit was arranged at the DSW office here in Palmerston North.  I was unable to see him on the day I wanted to because according to the foster mother, C had a wee bit of a cold.  I waited for a few more days and eventually saw C.  

On the day of the visit, I received a shock, because my son was looking very ill.  My Dad voiced his concern at C’s condition and asked if C had been taken to a doctor.  The answer that was given was that the foster parent, in her opinion, believed C had a cold and would get over it.  I can tell you quite categorically that C’s condition told me that it was something far worse than a cold, so I demanded that C, be taken to my own GP.  The diagnosis was bronchial pneumonia.  I also noticed when changing C’s nappy that he had a nasty looking nappy rash.  Well as the usual story went, the foster mum was on to it.  Bovine scatology, I thought.  Looks like a bit of neglect here, so I conferred with Dad re reporting the foster mother to DSW about C’s care?  Dad felt it was best that he consult my solicitor, for legal advice.  This was done and with in days of the foster parents being reported for the obvious neglect of my son, and my improved state of health, C came home. 

After arriving home, I changed C’s nappy and was immediately confronted with a severe nappy rash.  A well as reddening of the skin, in some places the skin had peeled, was raw and there were blisters, some the size of the new 20c piece.  I cleared up the nappy rash within 2 weeks of C coming home.

I kept asking myself questions on how this woman who was a DSW foster mum, treat my son with such neglect?  How could she do this to my son and why?  Also what happened to the report? My son did come home, but was this foster parent ever reprimanded for the neglect of C?  To this day, I have no answers.

The years went by and C grew in to a rascally toddler. Always into mischief and a delight to everyone he met.  I was coping with support from a hospital social worker and things began to look bright, until a fateful day in June 1979.  This particular day started out like all the rest. An average day. The sun was shining and there had been a frost.  That morning I was pottering around as usual, after having dropped C off at day care.  Dad came over to put some more wood on the fire, when he suddenly doubled over, clutching his chest. With no time to waste I did CPR on Dad.  He regained consciousness and rather than wait around for an ambulance, I bundled Dad into my car and took him round to our GP.  Tests were done because although I knew what a heart attack was, I had never actually seen one.   From our GP’s it was straight to the hospital for Dad.  Over the next 6 months, Dad’s condition deteriorated rapidly with the onset of liver and kidney failure and on 28 December, at 11.10 pm my Dad quietly passed away.  One again, the strain of everything that was occurring with another legal battle re Barry’s vehement denial of being C’s father, my Dad’s illness and subsequent death took its toll on me.  Dad was in hospital during one court hearing.

And again, I took this hatred of what Barry was putting me, C and my parents through out on C. 

I was physically abusing my son, by hitting him with my fists, the jug cord, buckle end of the strap, was kicking him with my feet and had pushed him down the stairs twice.   I just couldn’t cope with C around me any more.  I knew I wasn’t insane, but I definitely needed help to separate the hatred of Barry from my son. It was not C’s fault. He just happened to be a constant reminder of the evil that was manifested in Barry and it was this evil I was trying to rid my self from.  Once again,
Clinton was placed in DSW foster care.

I founds out that his first foster mother was dressing him in rags fro school.  This was dealt with and C was placed in another foster home.  These new foster parents turned out to be the same people who used to have the foster home down by my sister in

Waterloo Cres

, in Palmy North.  C also had a new social worker by the name of Eric van Dyke.  Eric was awesome and knew his job.  Because I knew the new foster parents, Eric arranged it so that I could have fortnightly visits with C either at the foster home, or back at Mum’s place. It could not have worked out better.  I was receiving treatment again and was placed on more medication.   Only this time I was also leaning to separate the issues re Barry from C.  There were positive changes afoot.  Every thing was starting to fall into place and life was beginning to become normal.  I knew I still had a few years to go, but what the heck… normality ha arrived.   I was in another relationship with a man I had known since early child hood and was pregnant again.  With the pregnancy I was seeing C on a regular basis.  He was delighted with the fact his Mum was pregnant again. 

One day C came to see me and I was astonished to find him covered in bruises.  I asked how it happened and C told me.  He received the bruises from a older foster boy in W and S’s care, because C had told them that CW had sexually abused him.  Unbeknown to me, this had been reported to DSW and the offender promptly removed to a more secure institution.  This 15 year old could not be charged with any offence as he had not killed any one.  However, the damage to C had been done.   When C’s little sister N was 3 years old, he began to sexually abuse her. 

I found out about this when N and I were talking about the differences between right and wrong touching because N was now 7 years old and at school. The “Keeping Ourselves Safe Programme” had been introduced and was being taught in her class.  Reading this next paragraph one would feel as though WW3 had started.  I exploded.  C had just come in the door and seeing him, I grabbed him by the throat and beat the crap out of him.  I was in such a state, I had almost lost control.   I did not know who to call or what to do.  So I thought that the most logical thing to do was to call my Mum.  We had a chat and she suggested I phone Buster Curson, my social worker at the hospital and find out what he could do.  I needed to keep N safe, but at the same time, I didn’t want C to go back into DSW/CYFS foster care.   C was now 14 years old.  I did phone DSW/CYFS, but sadly C did end up back in foster care.   I was blamed for what happened re my history and that I should have been more vigilant.  Fine words, eh.  Use and blame the past and expect me to be equipped with insect eyes and antennae.  Every parent knows that you cannot be watching your children 24/7.  And besides I did not know that C was sexually abusing his sister although I suspected it.

The judge who presided over the proceedings had the audacity of Satan himself, when he made a reprehensible statement, accusing N and I for concocting a story re C’s sexually abusing his sister.  This accusation absolutely devastated me.   A judge had accused me and a 7 year old girl for making up a story about her brother sexually abusing her.  I was shocked beyond reality.  So shocked, I can’t even recall the judge’s name.  Just as well I suppose.  C was to spend the next 3 years in care.  His social worker was Binky Anderson and her supervisor was Maggie Kazantzis.  Binky was ok, but Maggie was proving to be one queen b***h from hell. 

Under the new CYFS regime, I was not allowed to have any access with C and yet N was allowed access with her brother.   What irony. My access visits with C were denied, yet N was allowed to have access with C and he was the one who abused her.  What the H. E  double hockey stick was going on here?  

I needed to protect N so I made it clear to Maggie that n was not allowed access with C unless I was with her.   Maggie saw this as me being manipulative and replied that either N be allowed to see C on her own or no access at all. So I said, ok, no access it is.   We soon learned to be sneaky re access visits.  N and I lived in the street going into the back of the high school that C was attending.  Some mornings, C would meet us at the back gate of high school, or meet me on my own after school.  Maggie was eventually informed of our meetings and C was moved to another school.  I tried for access again, but it was denied.  Access was only given to N.  Once again I said no.  Eventually they gave in and I was allowed supervised access.  I agreed to this on the condition access occurred at my mother’s place. 

At the foster home where C stayed, during his third stint with CYFS he was again abused.  He was beaten up and burned with cigarette butts by older boys at the foster home.  I was not informed of this until C had returned home. At age 18 years, it was no longer my responsibility to act on C’s behalf.  This was an issue he would have to face himself.

N and I continued on with our lives.  She felt so miserable, scared and unwanted.  At times she was suicidal and what with me having been finally diagnosed as suffering from Bipolar disorder, I was barely coping.  Still we got through her stormy adolescent years.

As a 15 year old, N had shown herself to be quite the assertive madam, with a temper.  This temper was to prove her undoing.  One day after an argument, N was still in a fit of rage.  Still yelling at me and calling me all the names she could think of, N hurled a half full, glass peanut butter jar at my head.  If that wasn’t enough N picked up the screw driver I had been using and went to stab me with it.  To stop her from causing me further damage and to calm her down, I physically restrained her.   I had grabbed her pony tail, pulled hard and with much force, pushed her up against the cupboard and removed the screw driver.   Not happy with the fact I had restrained her, etc, she went off on what I thought was a bike ride to cool off.  Not so, for a few hours later, a CYFS social worker arrives, with 3 police officers and a ‘Place of Safety Warrant.’

I was so upset at what had just occurred, I phoned John Tonson, pleading or help.  I was a member of P.A.N.C at this stage.  There was not a lot that could be done as it was late afternoon.  I contacted my friend Sarah to let her know what had occurred and she suggested I go down to her place because I was in no state to be left alone.  At Sarah’s I was able to give her more details of what had happened and while Sarah was writing notes, her phone rang.  The caller turned out to be N. 

She was upset, not knowing what to do?  N had realised what she had done and wanted to come home, but didn’t know what to do.  N had told the care giver of her wish to return home but the care giver had said no because of the warrant.  Sarah explained what the warrant was and that is only for 5 days.  If N holds on for those 5 days and doesn’t waver in her intentions to go home, there is not a lot that CYFS can do.  Over the next 5 days N phoned me from school and notes were passed from her and I with one of he mates acting as ‘postie’. 

On the last day of this 5 day period, I had gone to CYFS accompanied by John Tonson for an access visit with N as she had asked to see me.  John and I waited in the office for over an hour to see N, but were told she was not there yet. Some sort delay, they said and asked if we could come back in an hour.  One hour later we returned to the CYFS office and waited for yet another hour and a half with still sign of N.  By this time I was becoming stressed as I did not like being in the CYFS office and quite frankly just wanted to go home with N.  John couldn’t stay any longer so I stayed at the office.  Being fed up with having to wait, I started to walk out the door.  As I did so, I heard N yell out, demanding to see me.  I turned around just in time to see n rush through another door, hotly pursued by Maggie Kazantzis. 

N was telling me something about being at the office all the time, section 139 and demanding her right to go home.  Maggie was firing on all four cylinders and looked like she was about to explode.   N can’t go home yet, she has to inform us of that on her own, away from your influence.  I said, ‘Oh really. Is that right?”  N yelled at Maggie stating that she had already told them of her wish and promptly gave Maggie a swift kick in the left shin for good measure, then walked out the door with me in tow.

I asked N what she was referring to when she mentioned section 139.  I found out that Maggie along with her other social work team members, had conspired to hold N in the office, to force me into signing a section 139.  N had told them that keeping her in the office away from me for several hours, to force me into submission wasn’t going to work.  N said that she had seen me walk away across the road with John and if I had only turned around and looked up, I would have seen her. 

That was the last time my children were to be involved with CYFS.  C and N are both adults with fulltime jobs. I believe that their lives under normal solo parent circumstances would have been easier.  However, they had to live in a situation where their mother had been misdiagnosed initially with another mental illness.  They have been damaged, but it is now for them to work through those damage issues.  Thanks to the wise intervention of Mason Durie I was correctly diagnosed and although I’ve had my struggles, I can look back over my life and say, Yep, you did it. 

I’m not saying that CYFS have gone for good, because once you are in the system, you are there for life.  My concern is for my grandchildren and for other families with CYFS problems. I hope that this story has given some insight and understanding into my own struggles.

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5 children lost to CYFS.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on May 7, 2007

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5 children lost to CYFS.
Sunday, 06.05.2007, 07:13pm (GMT12)

I would like to share what experience I had with CYFS. 

It all started in 1997 with the birth of my first child Jacob.  He was born on 27th November 1997.  I suffered from post-natal depression and had a hard time coping with a new baby.  My midwife at the time was concerned about me so she contacted CYFS to ask for help but instead of CYFS coming in to help me they got my husband and me to sign a 28 day temporary care agreement to uplift my son.  

My son was uplifted on the 14th December 1997.   My son went to stay with my husbands parents for 28 days and at the end of the 28 days he should have been returned but he was placed in foster care with Open Home Foundation and at the age of 19 months was placed with a permanent caregiver. 

The branch I was dealing with was
Royal Oak and the Social Worker was Collette Bennett at the time who is now working for Grey Lynn.  We had a psychologist report with Jenny Tanner who to this day is still practising and her report stated that my son was in need of care and protection.   We had a psychiatric report as well, completed by a Doctor Margaret Honeyman.   We had a FGC as well and we agreed that he was in need of care and protection but the lawyer we had at the time Alan Broadbent told us if we agreed to care and protection there would be a plan put in place to have him return home but he was never returned home. 

There was a defended hearing with Judge Boshier at the Auckland Family Court and it was decided that he was to be placed permanently outside the family.  We had access to him up until he was 3 years of age.  He is now 9 years old and we no longer have access because the judge said the access was problematic. 

Now on to the birth of my second son Matthew who was born on 25th February 2000.  CYFS had a custody order to uplift him when he was born but he remained in our care until July 2003. 

He was 3 and a half years old.  Our lawyer at the time Rob Collis and Counsel for the child Shelley Sage who is still his lawyer prevented CYFS from uplifting him. 

Jan Rimmer who was the social worker at the time had agreed to allow us to have support for him at home which we did until he was 6 weeks old.  After that CYFS had a support order in place until he was 6 months old and then he was discharged. 

There were no concerns for my son at all.  CYFS was very happy with his development so I don’t understand why he was removed.  I breastfed him as well until he was 9 months old.   We were under the Waitakere office then until he was removed at 3 and a half years old and now he is also placed permanently with a different family then his older brother. 

We had Elizabeth Collins as our social worker from Grey Lynn who has now retired and Rita Derrick was her supervisor.He is now 7 years old.  We have not had access with him for 3 years. 

Our third son Jonathan was born on 23rd February 2001.  Jonathan remained in our care until he was 7 months old.  He was uplifted from Starship hospital because he was suffering from apnoea attacks and Doctor Patrick Kelly was the paediatrician who contacted CYFS because he classed me as having Munchausen by proxy syndrome and was deliberately trying to suffocate my son.   

They also said he was failing to thrive as well.   So the social worker at the time was Karen Young who had a Place of Safety Warrant to remove him from the hospital.  He was born with special needs so is developmentally delayed.  He is now 6 years old and is permanently placed with the same family as his brother Jacob. 

We also were told he was going to be returned if we did parenting classes and anger management classes.  We did all that and to no avail.  We had an independent report done as well by Louise Armstrong which stated that we should have our son and daughter home but it was not presented in court because Judge Mather thought it was irrelevant.  

We had the same psychologist do a report on him as well and she also stated that he was at risk in our care.  We have not had access with him since he was 2 years old. 

Our daughter Rebekah was born on 8th August 2002.  She remained in our care until she was 11 months old.  She is permanently placed with the same family as her older brother Matthew.  She is now 4 and a half and will be turning 5 in August this year. 

We have not had access since she was 2 years old.  They uplifted her because she was failing to thrive but we had a paediatrician Dr John Andrews do a report and he said she was doing fine and also my GP spoke in court and said she was thriving.  She is small for her age because my husband’s mother is only 5”1 so it is genetic.  They also had concerns about reflux and they said I was giving her the wrong formula to make her sick.

I was breastfeeding her until she was 9 months old and then I put her on AR formula which is a formula with thickener in it to prevent reflux.  So the social worker Karen Young went to court and had a custody 101 order to have her permanently placed.  The Judge who was involved was Judge Mather and he is still involved to this day. 

And finally my fifth child Elizabeth was born on 13th May last year so is nearly 1 year old.  She was removed at only six days old by Mark Postow and Karen Young.  The social worker involved is Vicky Darwent whose supervisor is Mark Postow.  I was breastfeeding her at the time Mark Postow had the police come with him and remove her from our care. 

Judge Mather also made the order to have her uplifted.  When I was in hospital he agreed to us having a roster put in place to have her home but 3 days later he changed his mind and had her uplifted.  I was offered a place at a residential programme but CYFS said no because they have concerns about her safety if I was to bring her home after the commencement of the programme.  So as soon as there is a court hearing set for her she will be permanently placed as well with a different family. 

So I have contacted PANIC and have told them and they suggested I contact CYFSwatch to post my story. 

I have also been a ward of the state from the age of 4 to 16 so to this day I have been hounded by the Gestapo and so my children are having the same problem.  Something must be done to stop this happening to other families.  CYFS is an organization that is out there to help people so I thought.   

Thanks for letting me post my story on your website.  I am glad it was put up again.  Keep up the good work CYFS watch

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Parentline “sics” CYFS onto innocent Parent.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on May 7, 2007

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Parentline “sics” CYFS onto innocent Parent.
Friday, 04.05.2007, 10:56pm (GMT12)

I had a child that was being bullied at school. I rang Parentline to get some help for her to deal with it. I was told that if she was being bullied, it was something I was doing wrong as a parent and had CYFS come and investigate me.

I ended up with depression feeling like the worse parent ever and completely unable to parent my children. I know that I am a good parent but I would never deal with parentline or CYFS again. Most of the staff should never be allowed to work there. They are the unfit ones. By the way… I am so shocked at how bad they are. It is appalling that these people are in charge.

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CYFS lie in Court Affidavit.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on May 7, 2007

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CYFS lie in Court Affidavit.
Friday, 04.05.2007, 10:54pm (GMT12)

Can you please tell me if it is illegal for a CYFS social worker to lie in an affidavit put to the court?

Our 13 yr old son was out of control and physically attacked his father. His father lost his cool and did not punch him but back handed him and the boy got a black eye from it. The cops took our son away and he was put in CYFS care for the night. A few days later after many attempts to call them i finally got thru to the office and talked to a lady called Beth. She told me we needed to sign some papers.


I told her we would not sign anything and would pick our son up later that day as i needed to organise my husband to be home too. They then rang him at work and told him to sign the papers and he said no so they said that they would get a court order.


Since then my husband has got from the court an affidavit from the CYFS stating that he had assaulted our son and he was at risk so they are taking custody of him thru the court.

It goes to court at 10am in the morning and we are not going to have anything to do with CYFS so don’t know what is going to happen.

He has said in the affidavit that we have previous history with them (which in a way we do as some nasty person put in a false complaint about us and it was proven so with them) and also a history with child mental health who I did not even know existed.

We went thru our local mp here in Wanganui when the false complaint was put in about us and they agreed to pay back money for phone calls not answered or returned and still not have received the cheque. This was approx 4 years ago.

We are just a normal family and I feel that we are being used for statistical purposes as we are easy picking.
What can we do??

Need advice urgently please

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“All CYFS do is utterly disempower you”.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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“All CYFS do is utterly disempower you”.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 02:18pm (GMT12)

In my personal experiences and of those who have contributed their personal stories there is little or no accountability of CYFS and its staff. After all it’s us the tax payer who ultimately funds its operations. Therefore they should be a little more transparent and accountable than they currently are.It’s really hard to try and get your point across, but all CYFS do is utterly dis-empower you.

My story is no different than most that are posted here, but is just as heart breaking, however there are some common themes.

The heart break of trying to protect your children is a far too common occurrence.

It’s in all of us as parent’s genetic makeup to care love and nurture our children.

But due to social pressures etc some individuals may eventually cross the line.

I’m not going to relate my story at this time however from my experiences I would like to highlight some issues.

Trying get hold of the respective SW or case worker is almost impossible.

Most SW are untrained or are undergoing training, and have no social development

The SW’s that I dealt with and their Immediate Supervisors did not know anything but the basic details of case information.

Agreements made at FGC (Family Group Conferences) were not upheld by CYFS, also activities that occurred outside the FGC were included in the minutes, but the extreme abuse that was directed at me in the FGC by was completely left out

Affidavits have little or no credibility in the Family Court except for those who make the most abhorrent allegations. Further to this the contents of affidavits are rarely questioned by the presiding judge but are taken as gospel.

Orders made by the Family Court are not upheld by CYFS or the respective case/SW.

Yes the plan maybe quickly put in place but the goal posts are changed rapidly, and in my case without order/consultation of the Family Court or consulting myself – oh by the way I had and still have legal custody.

The term care and protection is dangerous and can easily mislead distraught parents (who have normally exhausted every other means of help available). In my case it was protection, care was never an issue.

They will go into schools without advising parents or care givers and demand to see the child. They will interrogate without impunity to they get the answers they want to hear.

They openly advise you that you can sign your child over for a period of time, or they will take you to court and get custody anyway.

They will allow the other parent to openly manipulate the child during supervised access.

In my situation they did not involve the police because they didn’t think the ongoing assault and constant abuse was serious. I had to complain to the police and when the evidential interview was done, well no surprises that there was more than a case to be answered to.

As far as I’m concerned the Child, Youth and Family Service needs to be accountable to all New Zealanders. Our children are our future therefore we should nurture and grow them with care, dignity and protection.

My dealings with this organisation have not been without cost. My immediate family and friends are now so fragmented over the incident, and we hardly ever talk. It eventually destroyed my relationship at the time.

My career has suffered significantly, mainly due to the amount of time I had to take off and my emotional state. All this is because I wanted to protect my child.

I complained to those who would listen, and those who wouldn’t as well. On the most part it fell on deaf ears.

I also spent two separate occasions with my local MP who was very supportive and couldn’t believe my story. He did well by me, then I received a letter from the Minister of CYFS telling me to back off and not to bother the Department.

Sorry, excuse me, but I was only asking when your Department was going to follow up and action the order made by the Family Court. I emailed the major newspapers and TV, no one wanted to hear

I have the letters, emails, court orders, affidavits, information requested under the FOI act, copies of emails, voice recordings etc to back up everything I say. I also complained to the Office for the Commissioner of the Child and almost five years later I still await a response.

If and when this department is ever taken to task over their gross mis-management this countries future, I will gladly be there with my evidence to stand up and be heard.

All the best.

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Who you gonna call? Not CYFS.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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Who you gonna call? Not CYFS.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 02:16pm (GMT12)

My experiences with CYFS over the years:1. I phoned CYFS in 1996 to bring to their attention my two sons (then 8 and 10 years old) that had been left alone at home by their mother.

The lady I spoke with was going to have it checked and asked if I would be prepared to have the two boys at my home until they had completed their ‘investigations’.

About an hour or two later that same person phoned me back, reporting that they had located their mother and, on the strength of her ‘evidence’ they would not take action.

I was then also accused of being drunk and unreasonable – without cause, I must add.

The social worker was not able to substantiate her claims, other than that this was ‘likely, according to the mother’s story’.

She could not respond to my question: if you believe I am drunk, why would you allow me to take care of my boys if found the mother had indeed left them alone?

2. At the ripe old age of 12 my youngest son was admitted to hospital with alcohol poisoning after attending a party for a 17 or 18 year old (girl) friend.

His mother had allowed him to attend this, and I was disturbed by the time he was admitted (1am Saturday morning).

His mother did not bother to see him in hospital and later refused to attend a pre-arranged session with a social worker. I spoke with CYFS people (at length) but did not get anywhere at all: they did not regard the matter as ‘serious enough’.

3. At 14 my youngest son was a habitual truant, and contacting CYFS resulted in a stern warning to me: the mother is a teacher and doing the best she can.

It was added I should change my stance and look at the future.

A while later one of the social workers contacted me and suggested I mellow out as his mother and I were looking forward to ‘wedding parties’, ‘graduation ceremonies’, and the like for our sons in future.

My suggestion then it was more than likely to be either a funeral or a court hearing for criminal offences perpetrated fell on deaf ears: I was too pessimistic according to the social worker (a senior one, at that).

4. The real irony: their mother is a teacher, collecting accolades from her peers for her ‘excellent work with students’. This, obviously, played a significant role with those at CYFS.

The best advice I have ever been given by a CYFS worker: get a female solicitor, they receive a better hearing in the Family Court.

Unfortunately, this appeared to be correct………………

The most absurd:(after my 14 year old had stolen a car and caused an accident) “this case is not serious enough for us to become involved with; we have more urgent and serious matters to attend to”.

I cannot help but draw an analogy with a book (a parody) I once read on Communist China: there was a major traffic problem developing in Shanghai and the authorities found the solution to the Shanghai problem: rename Shanghai to Hai-Shang…. how many times has CYFS had a name change????!!!!!

Excellent management by the government!!

By the way, when are you extending the site to include the Family Court system????
They are very, very close with CYFS.

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Looks like the Family Court (in association with CYFS) have some explaining to do.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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Looks like the Family Court (in association with CYFS) have some explaining to do.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 01:27pm (GMT12)

How the family court can possibly think that publication of the Skelton Vs. Jones matter in any way helps to exonerate them from any blame in the current CYFS furore beggars belief. They have simply demonstrated beyond all reasonable doubt how much it is costing this country for them to allow such an indefatigably vindictive campaign to be played out at the taxpayers expense.Mrs Skelton has succeeded in denying her son access to his father for years (with malice and aforethought) – aided and abetted by Legal Aid Services – whilst Mr Jones (a businessman) has met his own very considerable expenses:

Chronology of Events

FAM 2001-019-1413

26 January 2007

Applications/Notices of Defence/Consents/Orders

08/01/2001 Application for custody
Application for order that child not be removed from New Zealand (K Headley).
12/01/2001 Application for appointment as guardian
Notice of defence
Cross application for custody order and interim order for access (C Jones).
01/02/2001 Notice of defence (K Headley).
07/03/2001 Ex parte application for an order to prevent removal of child from
Waikato (C Jones).
07/03/2001 Order – Duty Judge
Order preventing removal from the Waikato
Leave for respondent to apply to set aside order on 24 hours notice.

09/03/2001 Consent memorandum for order preventing removal of child from
New Zealand (K Headley).
12/03/2001 Order by consent – Judge Brown
Order preventing removal of child from
New Zealand.

15/03/2001 Application to set aside order preventing removal of child from
Waikato (K Headley).
26/04/2001 Application without notice for protection order (K Headley).
26/04/2001 Direction – Judge Brown
Application to be on notice.

08/05/2001 Defence to application for protection order (C Jones).
31/05/2001 Application for urgent hearing for interim access (C Jones).
11/06/2001 Notice of defence (K Headley).
26/06/2001 Judgment – Judge McAloon
Mr Jones will have supervised access to Jayden once a week for a period of two hours. Interim basis until the Court makes a further order about access
Interim custody order placing Jayden in the custody until further order of the Court, of Ms Headley
Order made discharging the order preventing Jayden’s removal from the Waikato area.

13/09/2001 Consent memorandum filed.
13/09/2001 Order – Judge Twaddle
Final custody and access orders made
Domestic Violence Act proceedings are withdrawn
Review in 6 months
By consent.

11/04/2002 Application for transfer of proceedings (K Headley).
24/05/2002 Order – Judge Brown
Section 29A report to be obtained.

12/06/2002 Ex parte application for an order to prevent removal of child from
New Zealand and warrant to enforce access order (C Jones).
12/06/2002 Duty Judge
Both applications to be on notice
Time abridged for filing a defence to 48 hours.

21/06/2002 Application for interim access order to be suspended (K Headley).
24/09/2002 Direction – Judge McAloon
Application for adjournment granted
Interim order made by consent for supervised access by C D Jones
Section 29A report to be completed.

18/11/2002 Application for transfer (K Headley).
19/11/2002 Direction – Judge McAloon
Application for transfer to be served in normal way
Time for filing defence 21 days.

12/12/2002 Notice of opposition filed by C D Jones to K Headley’s application for transfer of proceedings.
19/12/2002 Order – Judge McAloon
Transfer application adjourned
Variation of access, warrant to enforce access made for each access, to lie in Court
Request to critique section 29A report is declined.

23/12/2002 Order – Judge McAloon
Warrant to enforce access.

07/01/2003 On notice application for custody and interim custody pending hearing (C Jones)
Without notice application for reduction in time for filing notice of defence and substituted service and directions for service.

08/01/2003 Decision – Deputy Registrar
Application granted, time for filing defence reduced to 24 hours, substituted service on Dick Halton Headley or Wendy Josephine Headley.

17/01/2003 Without notice application for order preventing removal of child from
New Zealand (C Jones).
17/01/2003 Order – Judge McAloon
Order preventing removal of child from
New Zealand.

09/07/2003 Without notice application for declaration of guardianship and for declaration that child was wrongfully removed from
New Zealand (C Jones).
09/07/2003 Direction – Judge McAloon
Without notice application for declaration of guardianship and for declaration that child was wrongfully removed from
New Zealand declined.

16/07/2003 Amended without notice application for guardianship (C Jones).
16/07/2003 Direction – Judge McAloon
Application for guardianship is considered as an application for additional guardianship, this application to proceed on notice with a one-hour hearing to be allocated and timetabling directions made by Judge McAloon.

20/07/2003 Order – Judge McAloon
Warrant issued under section 20 of the Guardianship Act 1968.

31/07/2003 Without notice application for order preventing removal of child from Hamilton (C Jones).
31/07/2003 Without notice application for leave to apply for interim custody and order for interim custody (C Jones).
01/08/2003 Direction – Judge McAloon
Order preventing removal can not be considered unless the applicant is a guardian
Without notice interim custody not made
Variation to the custody order that child once returned to NZ not be removed from the

08/08/2003 Order – Judge Brown
Order preventing removal of child from
Waikato discharged by Judge Brown.

18/08/2003 Order – Judge Brown
Variation of access order made and warrants to enforce access made to lie in Court
Costs reserved.

17/09/2003 Notice of defence filed by K Skelton (formerly Headley) in respect of application for custody and appointment of guardian.
14/01/2004 Application to issue warrants to enforce access (C Jones).
16/06/2004 Direction – Judge Brown
Access directions
Issues warrant to enforce access to lie in Court.

20/07/2004 Direction – Judge Brown
Critique of the section 29A report to be completed.

06/12/2004 On notice application for order varying access order (C Jones).
Without notice application for abridgement of time to file notice of defence.
06/12/2004 Direction – Judge McAloon
5 day defended hearing to be set down.

07/12/2004 Decision – Deputy Registrar
Application for abridgement of time granted
Time reduced to 24 hours to file notice of defence.

08/12/2004 Notice of defence filed by K Skelton against application for variation of access order.
20/12/2004 Direction – Judge McAloon
Variation of access order
Further warrant to enforce access to lie in Court.

08/04/2005 Minute – Judge McAloon
Without notice application for abridgement of time granted
Directions as to service given.

15/04/2005 Minute – Judge McAloon
Time tabling directions made
5-day hearing scheduled for 18/04/2005 vacated
Variation of access application to be heard for 1/2 day on 18/04/2005
Further directions made in relation to reports.

19/04/2005 Reserved decision delivered – Judge McAloon
Existing access order varied.

04/08/2005 Application for order placing child under guardianship of the Court (C Jones).
15/08/2005 Notice of defence filed in respect of application for order placing child under the guardianship of the Court (K Skelton).
22/08/2005 Ruling 1 – Judge McAloon
Ruling 2 – Judge McAloon
24/08/2005 Ruling 3 – Judge McAloon
25/08/2005 Ruling 4 – Judge McAloon
26/08/2005 Minute – Judge McAloon
Decision reserved
Pending that decision an order is made appointing C Jones as guardian
Variation of existing orders to give day to day care in favour of K Headley
Contact order in favour of C Jones.

27/09/2005 Reserved judgment delivered – Judge McAloon
C Jones application for providing day to day care dismissed
C Jones application for order appointing him as additional guardian granted
Parenting order granting K Headley day to day care of child
Parenting order granting C Jones overnight contact with child
Order placing Jayden under the guardianship of the Court
Review of contact order in December 2005.
Question of costs reserved.

21/10/2005 Notice of appeal to High Court received (K Skelton).
26/10/2005 Application for stay of decision (K Skelton)
Application for abridgement of time.
26/10/2005 Decision – Deputy Registrar
Abridgement of time to 48 hours.

28/10/2005 Notice of defence to application for stay of decision (C Jones).
15/12/2005 Oral judgment – Judge McAloon
Access arrangements confirmed plus indication that if not complied with K Skelton will be required to pay a bond into the Court.

07/02/2006 Application for leave to apply (C Jones)
Application for parenting order.
08/02/2006 Oral decision – Judge Brown
Directions made.

24/02/2006 Application for order varying parenting order (K Skelton)
09/03/2006 Oral decision – Judge Brown
Timetabling directions made
Direction to schedule a two day hearing
Interim contact arrangements confirmed.

26/04/2006 Application to suspend contact order (K Skelton).
05/05/2006 Minute – Judge Brown
Order suspending Court appointed agent’s guardianship
Timetabling directions made.

08/05/2006 Application for stay of proceedings pending appeal to the High Court (K Skelton).
18/05/2006 Notice of defence to application for adjournment (C Jones).
23/05/2006 Oral decision No 1 – Judge Brown
Application to vacate today’s hearing declined.

23/05/2006 Oral decision No 2 – Judge Brown
Application to vacate fixture 31/05/2006 is declined.

25/05/2006 Notice of appeal to High Court (K Skelton)
Application for stay of proceedings in the Family Court pending appeal filed.
26/05/2006 Minute – Judge Brown
Application to stay proceedings pending appeal refused.

31/05/2006 Decision – Judge Brown
Directions made
Second decision of Judge Brown.

31/05/2006 Application for dismissal of proceedings (K Skelton).
02/06/2006 Decision – Judge Brown
Directions made.

02/06/2006 Decision – Judge Brown
Orders consenting to and requiring of a Buccal (cheek) swab from child.

08/06/2006 Oral Decision – Judge Brown
Directions made.

12/06/2006 Oral decision – Judge Brown
Orders made to ensure paternity test of child is completed.

22/06/2006 Orders Made – Judge Brown
Interim parenting order providing C Jones with day to day care of child
Interim parenting order providing K Skelton with supervised contact for 2 hours weekly
Warrant to enforce C Jones order is to issue.

07/06/2006 Application for variation of parenting order (C Jones)
29/06/2006 Notice of application for release of information (C Jones)
03/07/2006 Notice of defence to application for release of information (K Skelton)
Application to discharge parenting order (K Skelton).
05/07/2006 Oral decision – Judge Brown.
12/07/2006 Application for leave to appeal (K Skelton)
Application for stay of Family Court order
Notice of motion on appeal filed.
14/07/2006 Minute – Judge Brown
Application to discharge Court order. The Family Court no longer has jurisdiction now that an appeal has been filed against this decision.

19/07/2006 Notice of opposition to application for leave to appeal and stay of Family Court order (C Jones).
04/08/2006 Oral decision – Judge Brown
Leave granted to appeal pursuant to s143 (3) of the Care of Children Act 1995
Leave granted for the section 133 report to be assessed by an expert
Ms Raethal’s report is not to be given to Ms Skelton, access through counsel only.

23/08/2006 Without notice application for warrant to enforce day to day care of child (C Jones)
23/08/2006 Minute – Judge Twaddle
Warrant to uplift child to be issued.


Hearings Date
Long Cause Fixture 23 January 2007
Dealt with On Papers 23 August 2006
Short Cause Fixture 4 August 2006
Dealt with On Papers 4 August 2006
Registrar’s List – Case Review 31 July 2006
Dealt with On Papers 21 July 2006
Dealt with On Papers 14 July 2006
Judicial Conference 5 July 2006
Dealt with On Papers 22 June 2006
Judicial Conference 12 June 2006
Judicial Conference 8 June 2006
Long Cause Fixture 31 May 2006
Dealt with On Papers 30 May 2006
Dealt with On Papers 26 May 2006
Dealt with On Papers 23 May 2006
Short Clause Fixture 22 May 2006
Dealt with On Papers 12 May 2006
Judicial Conference 5 May 2006
Dealt with On Papers 6 April 2006
Dealt with On Papers 28 March 2006
Dealt with On Papers 15 March 2006
Judicial Conference 9 March 2006
Judicial Conference 8 February 2006
Dealt with On Papers 20 January 2006
Judicial Conference 15 December 2005
Judicial Conference 9 December 2005
Dealt with On Papers 9 November 2005
Dealt with On papers 28 October 2005
Dealt with On Papers 26 October 2005
Dealt with On Papers 27 September 2005
Long Cause Fixture 22 August 2005
Dealt with On Papers 18 August 2005
Judicial Conference 12 August 2005
Dealt with On Papers 11 August 2005
Judicial Conference 5 August 2005
Dealt with On Papers 19 April 2005
Long Cause Fixture 18 April 2005
Judicial Conference 15 April 2005
Judicial Conference 15 April 2005
Dealt with On Papers 14 April 2005
Dealt with On Papers 14 April 2005
Judicial Conference 24 March 2005
Dealt with On Papers 11 March 2005
Short Cause Fixture 20 December 2004
Dealt with on Papers 7 December 2004
Judicial Conference 6 December 2004
Judicial Conference 13 October 2004
Dealt with on Papers 9 September 2004
Judicial Conference 26 August 2004
Judicial Conference 20 July 2004
Judicial Conference 24 June 2004
Judicial Conference 16 June 2004
Dealt with on Papers 8 April 2004
Judicial Conference 4 February 2004
Judicial Conference 30 January 2004
Judicial Conference 21 January 2004
Judges List 21 August 2003
Judicial Conference 18 August 2003
Judicial Conference 20 January 2003
Judicial Conference 21 November 2002
Long Cause Fixture 25 September 2002
Judicial Conference 11 July 2002
Judicial Conference 13 June 2002
Judicial Conference 24 May 2002
Registrar’s Case Review 4 April 2002
Registrar’s Case Review 9 October 2001
Registrar’s Case Review 28 August 2001
Long Cause Fixture 25 June 2001
Registrar’s Case Review 29 May 2001
Mediation Conference 18 May 2001
Registrar’s Case Review 27 March 2001
Registrar’s Case Review 27 March 2001
Registrar’s Case Review 27 March 2001
Judges List 22 February 2001

How many similar examples are being played out in family courts around the country while Helen and her mates continue to look the other way? How many Jaydens are out there having their years of innocence destroyed? How many ministers heads need to roll?

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“Sarahs Story” – 8 years and still no resolution.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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“Sarahs Story” – 8 years and still no resolution.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 12:55pm (GMT12)

Would you please comment on your blogsite about Sarahs story on:

I have run the named website for nearly 10 years and was written to by the U.N. to ask if I’d like to be a human rights monitor.
I don’t mind if you copy my site or even just the CYFS parts.

I am convinced that CYFS broke the law by denying this child the opportunity to give evidence because they wanted research participants.

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A product of the “CYFS System” speaks out – at 16 years old.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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A product of the “CYFS System” speaks out – at 16 years old.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 12:52pm (GMT12)

March 2006 I was kicked out of home because my parents weren’t accepting of my sexual orientation.I moved up to
Auckland to start off fresh with my life, which I successfully did. I gained full time employment and had a safe and secure place to live.

Being only 15 during this whole ordeal and having no support (except one very honourable woman) I started to become depressed and gained suicidal tendencies.

One night I then received a phone call from a private number stating that I better leave my support network that I had gained alone and I better stop seeing her to receive support otherwise they would kill me.

They hung up the phone and a series of threatening text messages started. I became very scared and reached out to my only support network.

She said that she had contacted social workers to see what we all could do regarding my situation.

I am a very outgoing person with a very bubbly personality and I do have the tendency to be slightly spontaneous and the social workers said that this works against me, so i was placed with a respite nurse.

I was earning enough to have the privilege to eat out every night and get decent meals into me but my respite nurse wouldn’t let me go out.

I later learned that i was deemed unsafe to be in public and that i had a sever personality disorder which meant i could cause great harm to people around me, which was totally untrue but it was the conclusion that CYFS had come up with.

I had the respite nurse for three days and it scared me to have a complete stranger living in my home, i was allowed no privacy, i couldn’t lock the bathroom door, the door had to be slightly open when i wanted to shower but the thing that freaked me out the most was the nurse would sit next to me while i was sleeping and watch me.

I was extremely disturbed to this day and now have extreme troubles sleeping. It was the Thursday morning and the respite nurse had finally left and i was shocked to get a phone call from CYFS stating they had terminated my tenancy and had to be out of the apartment by 4pm that day. I packed up the apartment and CYFS then refused to tell me where i was going to live.

The put my in a hostel just around the corner from my apartment and i lived there for approx 1 month. i developed sever depressive symptoms and started to gain more support from the woman mentioned earlier.

Now throughout this whole thing, i had told CYFS, do not contact my parents, they are not to know! My parents had been earlier involved in a child abuse case between me and my older brother and both my parents had coerced us to not say anything to the social workers or we would suffer the consequences.

I was with my support lady at her place of employment when i got a phone call from my mother stating she had some school stuff to sort out and if she could stay with me. I agreed, not knowing that my social worker had contacted her. From then on, CYFS kept me out of the loop hole of what was happening.

I rung my mother and told her she cant come up to
Auckland and that there is nothing to worry about and i didn’t hear from her again. One week later i was sent to a psychologist at an
Auckland hospital. I told them that everyone was putting me under so much stress that i wanted to die. The psychologist then had me section under the mental health act and i was forced in a high dependency unit (HDU) and another
Auckland hospital, this was even more stressful. I had no contact with the outside world, visitors were extremely limited.

They even took my shoes off me. I was in the adolescent mental health ward for another week after being let out of HDU. I then started to get back into the swing of things in my life. I had a awesome Xmas and new years with my friends and having some wicked times together. 6th January, i had lost all my support and all the stresses of life had caught up with my, i couldn’t stop crying or even leave my room at the hostel.

I decided to end my life.

9pm I hung myself.

9.05 pm the police knocked down my door and sent me to ED and back to the adolescent mental health ward for a further week. After getting out of hospital i was left with a horrific scar which is still very prominent and a foster family. I agreed to live with the foster family for a total of 2 weeks until i was due to go on a youth leadership camp.

I lived with the family, worked, had a good time with them and then went to the camp where i turned 16. i got back from camp and was 16 finally. I rung my social worker and asked if they could help me find short term accommodation until i got my financial side sorted out. They said no. After speaking to several lawyers around the country, we reached the agreement that CYFS couldn’t care less about child well being and that i should just back off.

I am sixteen and currently have nowhere to live. I have no job because I don’t have a permanent address to get anything sent to. I have an apt with WINZ to gain the IYB so I can afford to eat each week. I am still very depressed but I don’t let that get in my way. I am grateful that my friend has lent me his couch to sleep on.

I am still a very outgoing person and I love being around people, I have made it my mission that I will not let anyone be in the same situation as me and I will follow through with that promise.

That is my story, CYFS have screwed me over and i think its time for all of us to screw them back!

Yours sincerely,

Homeless 16yr Old

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Message from an Ex CYFS child in care.

Posted by watchingcyfswatchnewzealand on April 28, 2007

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Message from an Ex CYFS child in care.
Friday, 09.03.2007, 12:49pm (GMT12)















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